Scrolling through some of the comments on the UF Gator Facebook page after their 2016 regional loss will attest to this. My point is not to say whether the comments are right or wrong. But just to say that as a coach you will be questioned…it’s inevitable!
So why do it? Hopefully having a positive impact on your players is your top priority.
As a coach you may never do anything in life that can impact the lives of those outside of your own family more profoundly.
And that is why saying “I’m Proud of You” is so important.
This simple statement can go a LONG ways in your efforts for motivating a team!
Kind of obvious, right?
But the truth is that we quickly get wrapped up in picking apart players techniques and taking care of administrative items (among other things). This “task mode” can then lead us to forget to tell our players the things that seem obvious.
I confess that I sometimes fail miserably in this area. So perhaps I’m writing this post for myself.
If you are at all like me, it can be so easy to get into “coach-mode.”
And maybe you are a parent coaching your son or daughters team. Intentions with this are always good. To give them the best chance possible to be successful. And maybe even to get the opportunity to play in college.
This is commendable. After all, you are sacrificing hours of your time to not only help your child, but also the kids of other people.
Just remember to tell your daughters & sons that you are proud of them.
EVEN when they go 0-4 but clearly gave it their best effort. Or maybe ESPECIALLY in this circumstance.
If we want our players to dare to take risks then we must tell them that we are proud of them when the effort is there but the results are not.
Our kids need to know that we are proud of them. Especially when they may not be so proud of themselves. Otherwise they will be left feeling like the only way to gain approval is through the results of their performance.
And unless you want your players to play sports AND life with a crippling fear of failure, then a “results-based approval” is not the method you want to use.
So tell your players today! You will be taking one more stride towards motivating a team and having greater impact on the lives of your players!